The discussion was initiated by an article from Dr. In that article, she discussed how men can improve their love lives by focusing on what she proposes women really want (a man who is confident and high in self-esteem, as opposed to one who is simply materially wealthy). White in a response called "Who Cares What Women (or Men) Want - What Do You Want? Both authors make compelling cases for their perspective.
Welcome back to The Attraction Doctor I'm taking a break from my series on rejection to comment on another matter.
For those of you who might not know, there is an interesting discussion going on in the Psychology Today blogosphere. White's message is that figuring out what you want in a relationship (and being authentic to who you are) is more important than guessing about what others want you to be (and trying to fit those expectations).
I am always stunned by how most people just don't listen, and how far one can get simply by listening.
Most women over 50 have been in relationships with men who don't care much about what they have to say. I've done lots of cool things, worked for Tom Hanks and for governors and CEOs and climbed mountains and such.
Far too many women over 50 are unhappy with the dating world, especially the Internet dating world.
(I don't date men, so I don't know, but assume many men are unhappy with it as well.) That's too bad, because the online dating experience has opened up possibilities to meet people you never would have met before, and if some of those people are creepy or boring or not what they seem to be, here's a news flash: That was true back in the days when you only met people at work, at school, at the gym, at bars, or the dread introduced to you by friends.