In the world of online dating, there’s a fine line between selling yourself short and just plain overselling yourself.
In order to catch and keep someone’s attention, you’ve got to be interesting, engaging, and effective at establishing rapport, all while maintaining a bit of mystery. The following are some practical do’s and don’ts that, when put into practice, can exponentially increase your chances of long-term dating success.
Return an hour later to review, edit, and, when satisfied, hit Send.
That way, you avoid unnecessary emotional or verbal diarrhea and also keep your potential match interested.
Psychologist Barry Schwartz takes aim at a central tenet of western societies: freedom of choice.
In Schwartz's estimation, choice has made us not freer but more paralyzed, not happier but more dissatisfied.
That’s why it’s essential during the getting-to-know-you process to be open and friendly while still maintaining a sense of mystery.
Just as your potential match will want to chase you, you can also chase him or her. When you find someone whose profile catches your eye, send a flirty wink, an enticing icebreaker, or a friendly email. Quite honestly, it’s overwhelming and a total turnoff.Do: Represent Yourself Fairly While it’s far too easy and commonplace to misrepresent yourself online (shaving off a few years from your age, exaggerating your income, showcasing decades-old photos, etc.), you’re far more likely to achieve dating and mating success online if you’re open and honest about who you really are.Do: Play the Game Like it or not, dating is a game.In order to be successful, you’ve got to play to win. Your job is to recover quickly, get back out there, and always play to win.When responding to your match via email, use two-to-three-sentence responses to any particular subject.
When in doubt, follow this simple exercise: After drafting your email, save it, and then walk away from the computer.