You deserve better than someone’s half hearted interest and there is no excuse for Start as you mean to go on.
Even though love is not there from the outset, there is no excuse for someone not to treat you with care, trust, and respect. By the same token, if loving them means you can’t love you, always choose you.
Over the past few years I have written about boundaries, your personal limits of what you will and won’t put up with, many times.
Yet, every day I hear from women who even in reading about boundaries and knowing the importance of them are afraid to actually divorce on the horizon, and who are not over their ex. You’re not someone to pass time with while they figure out what they do and don’t want, and the moment that you involve yourself in any of the above situations, the person knows that they don’t really have to do anything.
They believe their own hype and overestimate their interest and end up making promises they can’t and won’t deliver on.
Watch how quickly their personality switches or they disappear when they’re expected to deliver.
You’ll know it’s only their terms when you try to instigate your own orbalance things out – they’ll shut down/disappear/get confrontational or pretend to agree and then revert back to doing their own thing.
Don’t waste your life waiting for them to become the Person They Were In The Beginning.
When a man is interested, you are in no doubt about their interest and they don’t run the risk of losing you.
You have to stop acting like every guy could be the one and like there’s a fire – there isn’t.
Do not erode your self-esteem by disrespecting yourself in a relationship. This is a fundamental part of Whether they tell lies about the future to get what they want in the present or they just refuse to talk about the future, if you’re involved with Pinocchio or you’re with someone who can’t see their way to making plans with you, cut them off as soon as this becomes evident.
Some people just can’t help but talk themselves up a storm at the beginning.
If they lie to you and let you they’re single, abort mission.
I should also remind about ‘lender awareness’ – do not allow yourself to be in a situation where you are sharing your man, whether it’s because you turn a blind eye to his cheating, or you keep letting him break up with you and then take him back once he’s got her/them out of his skin…which brings me neatly to… I will not spend my time waiting around, whether it’s for their calls, or for them to show up after they’ve disappeared, waiting for them to come back, waiting for them to turn into The Man I Think He Could/Should Be, or waiting for them to decide if they want to be with me – I’m not putting my life on hold for anyone.