However, I can’t help but notice that the idea of chivalry itself has seemed to change over the years.What I’ll refer to for the rest of this post is “modern day chivalry.” The very sad but realistic truth is that much of what is considered “chivalrous” should actually happen without any expectations.When my parents used to say something along the lines of, “find yourself a chivalrous man!” they were referring to the traditional “gentlemanly” type things that women should most certainly expect.Not to mention, if you truthfully did have a great time, it shouldn’t feel hard at all to say so. It confirms her own thoughts about the date; and simply put, it just feels good.Modern day chivalry includes: receiving a text back, keeping the date you planned (aka not ditching), calling you at a decent hour and for a decent reason (not 2 am just for sex), giving your face as much attention as they give their phone during a conversation, contacting you first on a dating app (which doesn’t include a dick pic or sexual innuendo), and not getting ghosted.
This is such a small and easy gesture- literally takes 30 seconds to do!So a couple girlfriends inspired a few of these, and I’ve got to admit… They are frustrating, upsetting, and frankly, quite bullshit.We’ve seemed to have lowered our standards of what we should expect from our dates, which means that we inevitably value ourselves less. What is very much alive is our own perception that we’re being treated right, when realistically we’re being treated so far from it.First off, it’s important to know that the very definition of chivalry seems to have changed from past generations.
We shouldn’t be getting so excited over getting a text back!